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Skypecast Problems!

Hello friends,

Please accept my humblest apologies, but it seems that our "How to Kiss for the Very First Time" Skypecast on Skype, will not happen tonight!

I'm a newbie to Skype and have not been able to login to my own Skypecast - how embarrassing! :)

I have contacted Skype support and as soon as they can help me to figure out what's wrong, (believe-you-me, I've tried everything!)...I promise that we'll have our Skypecast,ok?

Thanks in advance for your understanding of the situation...

Gillian

Get Free Money For College/University, Now!

Why should you pay for college/university, when you can go for free?

 

[As promised, please see our new section called "Financial Aid (School): Scholarships, Grants, Loans from High School to Grad School", at the top of our blog under the blog name and description.

 

This section will allow you to search for scholarships, grants and fellowships (SGFS)  in your chosen fields of study and for colleges/universities you may be interested in].

 

Scholarships, grants and fellowships (SGFs) are free money for college/university that you qualify for, based on your grades, year in school, extracurricular activities, athletic ability, your ethnicity, your family income, etc.

 

(While scholarships are usually given to those entering college/university for the first time, fellowships are usually given to students already in, or just starting Graduate School).

 

I often wonder why students and their parents insist on getting student loans (which is money you have to pay back to the lender + interest), when for a little bit more effort and planning, they would have otherwise gotten money for college/university, free!

 

There is a cardinal rule when seeking to obtain SGFs - start early!

 

Start at least three (3) years in advance, to give yourself enough time to decide what you want to do in college/university, which college/university you want to attend and to find the best SGFs for you!

 

You want to also ensure that you're doing well enough (at least a B+ average) in school and doing the right kinds of extra-curricular activities, to qualify for SGFs available.

 

Where Should I Begin my SGF Search?

 

1) You should begin your SGF search at your high-school guidance counsellor/ counselling office or your college counselling office.

 

2) You should also have your parents contact the Human Resources Department in the companies they work for, to see if SGFs are available for employees' children.

 

3) Certain service clubs (e.g. the 4H club) and religious organizations that you or your family may be associated with, may have SGFs available too, so don't hesitate to ask.

 

4) Your government may have bilateral arrangements with other countries (that you're interested in studying in) which involve SGFs, so please do contact the relevant government agencies and the embassies and consulates of the countries you're interested in studying in, to find out if SGFs are available and the criteria for same.

 

5) Alumni and past SGFs holders can also help greatly in identifying great SGFs available.

 

6) The Internet has hundreds of scholarship search engines and sites - this should be utilized as well!

 

The Internet search engine, Google, is a great place to start.  You may use the Google search box below, should you choose:

Enter your search terms

Submit search form

 

We have, however, made the search process a lot easier for you, via our  Financial Aid (School): Scholarships, Grants, Loans from High School to Grad School section, as mentioned above.

 

Please visit this section to start your scholarship search, now!

 

(All the above is pertinent to both US and international students wishing to study in the US and other countries).

 

How Do I Know Which SGF is For Me?

 

1) Try to find SGFs which match your strengths.

 

2) Try to find SGFs at the colleges/universities you wish to attend.

 

3) Find SGFs that pay for air travel (if necessary),tuition, living expenses and books and that won't prevent you from getting other concurrent SGFs.  (You may need concurrent/simultaneous SGFs if your major SGF doesn't cover all of the above).

 

4) Examine carefully the eligibility criteria for each SGF to see if you qualify.

 

5) Ensure that the payback is not burdensome. Some SGFs bond you to a country or an organization for a few years in exchange for the SGF. Please bear this is mind when evaluating SGFs...being bonded for 2-3 years in exchange for tuition, books and living expenses, for your 2-4 year college/university life is no big deal!

 

6) Some SGFs have other conditions, e.g. maintaining a B+ average or annual renewals for the SGF to be continued, so please be sure to understand these requirements, when evaluating SGFs.

 

Avoid scholarship search scams. These are people who charge you for scholarship searches and provide less than stellar results!

 

Good luck in your SGF search!

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We're Now on Skype!

Yes, friends, Girl With a Purpose Blog is now on Skype!

(Skype lets you make free calls over the Internet to anyone else who also has the service. It's free and easy to download and use, and it works with most computers. Skype offers free global telephony and unlimited voice calls with its next-generation peer-to-peer software). Please click here for more information.

As such, we will have our first Skypecast on Friday, December 29, 2006!

A Skypecast is an interactive audio broadcast, held on the Skype network, where up to 100 people can meet online to discuss a topic. You must have a Skype account to use it.

We will be discussing our "First Kiss" post that was posted on December 21,2006.

Please join us at 7:00 p.m. EST or 10:00 p.m. PST, for an hour, where we'll be able to talk freely  and frankly about our first time kissing experiences and share any tips and techniques that will help our younger friends.

We will also be discussing how best to approach our daughters about kissing and how to make ourselves available to our daughters to  discuss this topic.

Please click on the Skypecasts Beta banner to the left-hand side of this post to find out more!

I'm really looking forward to meeting with you guys!

If you do not yet have an account on Skype, please click on this banner to sign up now!

I'm testing Skype out for my business as well, as it's a very cost-effective means to make video-conferencing calls and for collaborating on documents, online, in real-time, with team members located globally...you can too, by clicking on this link! Skype for Business

Gillian

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Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas to all our friends at Girl With a Purpose Blog!

No doubt it's already Christmas day where some of you live!

Please have a great and memorable Christmas...filled with hope!

Hope gives us a very enduring reason for living!

Please let your loved ones know how much you love them and please reach out to those around you who may be lonely for the holidays.

On another note:-

We will be starting our Scholarships section on Thursday, so please be on the lookout for it!

Gillian

Tags: Merry Christmas, love, loved ones, lonely, scholarships

First Kiss

Beginning today and for the next few weeks, we will be exploring topics under the Category "Firsts".

Mothers, please encourage your daughters to visit our blog with you, so that our posts will start and re-initiate conversations between the both of you about your "firsts" and your daughter's "firsts".

If you are under 17, please encourage your mom to sit with you while you view these posts, so that the two of you can have some frank and open discussions about same,ok? :)

If you want to explore these posts alone, please feel free to...just ensure that you have a tall glass of water and a dictionary beside you, for we will be discussing topics that teens and pre-teens are very hot and bothered about! :).

Here goes:

Your first kiss...

Every pre-adolescent and adolescent girl dreams of the day when she will be kissed for the very first time.

No doubt it has been the subject of discussion among her and her friends, as they drool over boys that they really like and exchange the exciting details of what they'd like done to them and what they'd like to do to these boys...

(Mothers, if she tells you otherwise, she's being less than truthful :)).

With that said...A girl should be ready for her first kiss and know what to expect from her first kiss.

You know when a boy is going to kiss you and/or when you're going to initiate a kiss when...

Hopefully the two of you have been friends and have been smiling and gigling with each other to know that something is definitely going on between the both of you and hopefully, you would have been taking things, step by step.

So you go from giggles, to making small attempts at comforting touches (e.g your softly pinching his nose or something like that), to the point of revealing how you both feel, to holding hands, to being comfortable enough with him to rest your head on his shoulder and hugging him (around the waist)...then to your first kiss.

I'm from the "old school" and still believe that a boy should initiate that first kiss.

Why?

Because if you do and he's very talkative...you may hear that you came on to him and how "easy" you are.

If he's not talkative, he's going to be wondering how many guys you've already kissed and in his mind, who knows, what else? :)

[Please try from this early age to observe boys who love to brag about sexual exploits or "easy" girls. They are usually novices in the sexual arena or are just "pawers". Meaning...to them, every girl is a vagina to be had and as such, each girl is a notch on a belt - one sexual conquest after another, for comparison purposes with their friends. These boys hardly ever grow up and are still this way even at age 40 :)].

Now back to the issue at hand :)...

You know when a boy is going to kiss you for the first time, when...his hands get wet, he's all nervous, he starts babbling foolishly and then wham - he splats you...tee hee:)...

Sorry guys, most boys, at age 12-14, have yet to learn the fine art of kissing.

Ok, most boys and girls get all nervy for that first kiss, but you need to exercise some confidence here...when he starts getting all nervous...kindly ask him if he wants you guys to kiss... if he says yes, encourage him to kiss you softly on the cheek first.

If his tongue gets entangled on your cheek...say, "let's try that again" and encourage a kiss that's "lips only", on the cheek.

Or you kiss him.

You'll have to moisten your lips with your saliva (if you don't know what that is,then you're too young to be kissing:)) first...and then just give him a small peck on the cheek...

When that happens, your body is going to go into overdrive, his body is going to go into overdrive, you're both going to be feeling all hot and tingly all over and my suggestion is that you stop at that peck...

Why?

When two very young and unmarried people are both experiencing hot blood pumping through their veins, one of them has got to be conscious enough to know when to draw the line and stop...

(This should be discussed by both of you, prior to any kissing,ok? You've got to be responsible for and to each other).

There'll be lot's of time for lip kissing in the future...

Please remember that you can always wait for everything sexual in life...young people need not feel pressured into kissing or sex before marriage...it will not run away!

If you can't handle the "lip kissing" thing...please leave it alone :).

Ok, so let's say you think you can handle the "lip kissing" thing...my humble advice is that you spend a few more days pecking, that is, practicing your kissing techniques on each others' cheeks, forehead and getting used to the warm, tingly feeling of face kissing...

Practice holding each other's chins and cheeks gently, as this will be important in bonding between the two of you during the kiss and in bracing each other's faces during the kiss.

Please practice talking with each other, too, to gauge each other's reactions to what's being done.

If you guys find yourselves pawing each other, please give the "kissing thing" a rest,ok?...you're not yet ready :).

If you guys can take things in stride, you're ready for the big leagues...the lips.

Both of you should have moist lips ...the art of fine kissing begins with moisture.

If you're under 14,  my humble suggestion is that you hold your lips in a kissing pout and he does the same and you two just let the four lips meet and kiss lightly.

(Please, do open your eyes to see where each others' lips are :)).

You do not need to get into tongue exploration at this age...keep it light and soft.

Precious memories should remain precious...don't damage a budding relationship by pressuring each other,ok?:)

If you're older, like over 15, you can just press your moist bottom lip on his moist bottom lip, in the centre of the lip and hold it there briefly.

Then slowly move your bottom lip, up and down his bottom lip, in a very relaxed and slow, flicking motion ensuring that you moisten his lip with the tip and the bottom-front portion of your tongue, intermittently.

Stop and kiss his lips, slowly; then with the slow, gentle, flicking motion of your tongue and both lips, ensure that his entire bottom lip is covered with the sucking motion of your kisses.

Do the same for his upper lip.

Encourage him to do the same to you.

Ask him how he feels,  or forgive me you, you'll know it by the way he's eagerly exploring you back :).

Stay calm and encourage him to stay calm. If it's impossible, then it's time for both of you to stop...

You go home...he goes home and you both take a cold shower.

Please resume on another day, picking up from where you left off,ok? :).

When you resume, you can start from the beginning, or just take either lip and gently suck on it, then take both his lips and kiss and suck gently.

Encourage him to do the same.

With both lips interlocked, either of you will have to tilt your head to the side, so that you can breathe through your nostrils and so that you can both enjoy soft and gentle kisses with both lips and the gentle movements of your tongues.

Please rember to breathe, and then kiss again...

Don't worry...you'll have plenty of time to perfect the technique and see and talk about what feels right and enjoyable to both of you :).

Now, I'm going to say this to you, as young as you are:

A kiss is never just a kiss...

A kiss usually leads somewhere...to more exploration and eventually sex.

You see, a kiss is the beginning of foreplay, which is gentle kissing, touching, etc. that leads up to sex.

You should not be lip and tongue kissing a boy you have no intention of having sex with.

You should wait until marriage to have sex...

Why? You may be asking...

All my friends are doing it and enjoying it...and telling me it's great!

No doubt many of your friends will be having sex, but how many of them will tell you about the downside...SIDs, HIV/AIDS, teen pregnancy, abortion?

All because two people got hot and bothered and didn't stop with a kiss...

Sexual intimacy and sexual exploration at length, belongs to two people who have made a lifetime committment to each other and who can accept the results of that intimacy.

It has no place in the lives of pre-teens and teens whose hormones are running faster than Asafa Powell in the 100-metre sprint.

Please enjoy your childhood...enjoy being a teen, without the complications of "unprepared for" sex.

Try to live your life with as few regrets as possible, so that you can have peace in your life, as you get older.

Leave the deep-throat kissing for the man who'll become your husband...then you can explore him at length,ok?

Enough said.

Please let me know what you think,ok?.. I just love to hear you thoughts:)

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