How Deep Is Your Love?

 

"How Deep is Your Love?" the hit song recorded by the Bee Gees in 1977, asks a very important question of lovers and would-be lovers...

 

Just how deep is your ability to love and how you love, presently?

 

1. Some people are very fickle lovers; at the first sign of trouble  (differences of opinions, small disagreements, arguments), they aim for the proverbial door of their relationships.

    

   They want out!

    

   They won't stick around long enough to try to work out differences, problems and challenges, thus missing the opportunity to grow individually and as human beings capable of extending unconditional love to others.

    

   They hop from relationship to relationship looking for the proverbial "high" from the beginning stages of a relationship - "the infatuation stage" where two new lovers see only the positive attributes that they want to see in each other.




2. Others are deep infatuators...falling deeply in "love" with the person they are attracted to, before getting to know him/her properly. These lovers run running the risk that the rose-coloured picture they've painted in their mind about their love interest, is very faulty and misty, as they haven't allowed the process of time and thorough conversations to reveal their future lover's true personality.

   
   

   ...Much less whether or not their intended lover's personality and values will complement (blend well with) their own.




3. While others are hesitant lovers...they will be in a relationship for many months and years and never make a long-term commitment to their lovers. They just go through the motions of a relationship but their hearts are never involved.

   
   

   (Some of these lovers love the fact that they are "settled" in a relationship, can call someone their boyfriend/girlfriend/fiancé/fiancée and have their lovers at their beck and call, but when asked if they would marry them, say they are still waiting for the right person to come along or will try to find some excuse to delay this long-term commitment.)




4. Then there are the poly-amorous lovers - they believe that they are so great (or are in such great demand), that several people must share their love at the same time. [They have several people with whom they have a (potential) sexual relationship, all at the same time.]

   
   

   And many times they lead each of these persons to believe that they're the sole person in their lives and that they have their love exclusively.  While thoroughly enjoying stringing these lovers along, like puppets on a string and boasting about it privately and publicly.




5. Then there are the reasoned lovers: these lovers approach love with caution, moderate expectation and insight. They understand that people are complex, have complex reasons for doing things and as such, see it best to know people as friends, first, before making long-term commitments to them.

   
   

   They go into a potential relationship with their eyes and ears wide open. They listen, talk less and seek clarification continually...while assessing if their potential lover has similar values (expectations about life and beliefs that are held dear).

   
   

   When they have enough evidence that the value systems are similar, that there are enough differences between them to make the relationship interesting and that the person really has their best interest at heart, they (or sometimes their heart), decide that they can safely fall in love and they do so, while enjoying the process of knowing someone and allowing themselves to be known.

   
   

   And they enjoy working out differences of opinion that will occur from time to time...realizing that this is just a part of the love-building process. They share their time freely with their lover, tending to their needs, finding new and interesting ways to express their love.

   
   

   They are so busy pleasing their lover, that they don't have time to seek other lovers who will distract them from the exclusivity that their lover deserves.

   
   

   They realize that they are accountable to God for how they love and thus do so in ways that will make God proud. They try to live out the hallmark of love given in 1 Corinthians chapter 13, verses 4-13 and are happier as a result of loving the way that God intends them to.

 

So, how deep is your love?...

 

Which of the above categories do you fall in? :)

 

Do you feel comfortable being in that category...or would you rather migrate to category no. 5?

 

Is the love you're extending to your love interest, now, the kind of love that you'd like to get in return?...

 

How about...in the long run...like the next 20, 30, 40,50 years?

 

It's a lot for us all to think about...isn't it?...for we may just be living lesser lives than we deserve to be.

 

Nuff said (Jamaican, meaning, "enough has been said").

 

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You can hear and buy, the MP3 song, "How Deep Is Your Love", by clicking the image below. (It's the second song on the "Saturday Night Fever" MP3 Album...just scroll down 1 page, after clicking the image):

 

(The video of the Bee Gees singing "How Deep is Your Love?", is shown above).

 

Gillian

 

Sources Include

 

1) Lyrics, "How deep is your love", 1977 hit song by the Bee Gees, Lyricsfreak.com

 

2) Article, "How Deep is Your Love", Wikipedia.org