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Are You a Bone Maker or Bone Breaker?(Part 2a)

Please read our previous post, "Are You a Bone Maker or Bone Breaker? (Part 1)", to get a background to this post.

In this post we will teach you how to repel bone breakers (diminish their effect on your life)...

In the next post in this series, "Are You a Bone Maker or Bone Breaker?(Part 2b)", we will teach you how to become bone makers, despite the negative influence of bone breakers in your life.

Let's begin...

When faced with a bone breaker (a negative person) in your life, you have four (4) options.

You can:

1) Pray to God to change the bone maker's perspective, so that their negativity will be infused with positives and so that they will live healthier lives and relationships.

(This enhances your ability to love people whom you previously thought were unlovable and will help you to think and perform loving actions towards these people despite their uncharitable and spiteful ways.

Please remember that it is difficult to hate someone for whom you are positively praying . :): This is what Jesus meant in Luke 6:27-29 when He said that you must bless those who curse you and do good to those who spitefully use you and persecute you.)

Seeing the bone-breaker in this new light, also enhances your faith in God who controls everything and who can also cause events to happen in that bone breaker's life, so that their effect on you is minimized...

E.g. God has been known to cause bone breakers to migrate to another country, change jobs, die or become sick, when He feels that this person's effect on you is too burdensome for you to bear.

2) Pray to God to change your perspective...so that you will understand that a bone-breaker is also made in God's image, and due to his/her own weaknesses or circumstances, have allowed same to so overtake him/her, that all he/she has are negative perceptions of life.

Understand that bone-breakers are to be pitied and they can only do you harm, if you allow them to.

It is also important to understand, though, that if you continue to associate with bone-breakers, their spiteful and negative ways will spill over unto you.

You need to try to avoid these persons so that their effect on you is minimized.

[If a bone-breaker is in authority (e.g a supervisor, teacher, parent), try  be as respectful to him/her as you can, until you can chart a path so that you can eventually leave this person for good or deal with this person at arm's length.

If the bone breaker is your parent, please remember that  God expects you, when older, to take care of your parents, no matter how negative they may be. If you don't, you will not only dishonor God, but He will not bless you with long life.(Ephesians 6, verses 2-3)

So please look after your parents, as best as you can, knowing that this will honour God. ]

(If you have a bone breaker in your life who is physically abusive then you need to move away from this person.

Get help from the police and government or non-governmental social agents (e.g. those from your church/synagogue/mosque), who can help you to be safe on a more permanent basis.)

3) Try to associate with bone makers...their positivity will also spill over on you, as either directly or indirectly, they'll teach you how to establish healthy relationships...relationships that will enhance your well-being, versus unhealthy ones that will tear you down.

Also, having an imbalance of more positive people and less negative people in your life, decreases the effect that bone breakers may have on you.

4a) You may try to approach the bone-maker to help him/her to understand, in a calm manner, how their negative actions and speech are affecting you.

Please only do this when the person is in a happy mood and you have sought the help of the other agents mentioned above, who can help, should the bone-maker react negatively to your approach.

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4b) Approach a bone maker, whom the bone breaker respects, who can speak with the bone breaker.

Bone makers ( people who encourage and who see positives despite negatives) are always around...you just have to open your eyes, to find them.

Let me clue you in: they are people of influence (they are looked upon for their moral character and integrity) in your family, school, church/mosque/synagogue, work-place and in your community.

Please let them know, truthfully, what has happened in your conversations with the bone breaker, so that they can have a background of what to expect, when approaching this person.

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Well friends, these tips should help you to negate the effects of bone-breakers in your life...please let us know if you have been able to follow and apply them to you life,ok?

Please leave us your comments/feedback, by using the Comment Link below this post. :)

Please stay tuned for ,"Are You a Bone Maker or Bone Breaker?(Part 2b)", where we'll teach you how to become bone makers, despite the negative influence of bone breakers in your life.

Sources Include:

1) Luke 6:27-29,

27"But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. 29If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic., 

BibleGateway.com

2) (Ephesians 6, verses 2-3),

2"Honor your father and mother"—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3"that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth." ,

BibleGateway.com

Kern Spencer Trial Postponed!

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Well friends, today was supposed to have been the big trial day for Kern Spencer, Member of Parliament for North East St. Elizabeth and Former PNP State Minister in the Ministry of Industry, Technology, Energy and Commerce.

So too for his co-accused, business man Rodney Chin and Mr. Spencer's Personal Assistant, Coleen Wright, who, along with Mr. Spencer, have been charged with fraud, money laundering and corruption, for their roles in the JMD $270 million, Cuban Light Bulb Project, gone awry.

However, the Director of Public Prosecutions (Ms. Paula Llewellyn) pleaded for more time, due to the enormity of information to be gathered and analyzed.

Meanwhile Mr. Spencer's lawyer, Ms.Deborah Martin, claims that the police have yet to provide her with the details of Mr. Spencer's charges.

The trial has been postponed until May 16,2008.

The bail terms for all three accused, have also been extended until then.

Mr. Chin's travel documents were returned to him, at his lawyer's (Mrs. Valerie Neita-Robertson) request, to facilitate him doing business abroad.

Please remember to read our posts (from February 26-29) to refresh your memory re the background to this post.

Gillian

Sources Include:

1) Television Jamaica (TVJ) Nightly News at 7:00 p.m, March 26,2008

2) CVM Television News (News Watch) at 8:00 p.m., March 26,2008

Are You a Bone Maker or Bone Breaker?(Part 1)

In the human body, our skeleton allows us to stand, sit, lie down and move...

We would be mush if we did not have a skeleton.

The skeleton consists of bone...which consists of bone marrow which makes red blood cells that help to circulate air around our bodies to our different organs and glands.

The bone marrow also forms new bones, replacing torn or old bone tissue.

If you break a bone in the human body, not only is there pain, but there is swelling as the body tries to fight off any infection...for it to function properly again, the bone must be reset,.. a process that can take up to three (3) months.

But eating the right foods and exercising, helps to strengthen our skeletons, as:

a) Eating right gives our body enough nutrients to function properly and make more blood.

b) Exercising helps to keep our bones flexible, while keeping the weight off, so that our skeletons will be not be pressured by us being overweight.

Well, in the human body...marrow would be considered bone makers.

Any external force inflicted on our bone that is hard enough to break it, would be considered to be a bone breaker.

But people can be bone makers and bone breakers too...

If we liken bone to the human spirit (our inner selves that form our views, perspectives and personalities), we see where the human spirit, like bone, can be made or broken.

Our human spirit is made (nourished/enriched) via encouraging words, truthfulness, right motives, right perspectives and living our lives with purpose and conviction which comes from an active conscience and a life dedicated to obedience to God.

Our human spirit is broken (malnourished) by hateful and spiteful speech and intent, discouraging words, bad-mindedness and envy.

Too often we break the spirits of those we know and those who are close to us, unconsciously...in that we are so negative in our outlook, that we don't realize that our negative perception of life is carried over into how we speak with and treat others...

Too often we break the spirits of those we know and those who are close to us, consciously...in that we are so spiteful and hateful in our perspective and outlook on life, that we don't mind bringing another person down...so that they will be reduced to our own sorry fate.

Without realizing it, we become bone breakers...breakers of the human spirit, whose spirit in turn, becomes dark and blighted, as we continue to spew our bile.

And that darkness is spread to those around us, who may or may not spread that blight, to the people that they, in turn, come in contact with.

Hmmmmh!

However:

1) When see try to see the positives in life, despite hardship and can show others how to avoid mistakes we've made, so that they in turn can be better people...we encourage the human spirit and that encouragement brings hope to others...

How?

Because the people we encourage can see that there is at least one exception to the ugliness that is often present in our world and with this renewed hope, can spread hope to others.

2) When we are helpful in our thoughts words and actions, for the sake of pleasing God, and with no expectation of reward, we encourage a right perspective (outlook on life) within ourselves.

With this right perspective, we can love another human being and thus will seek to that person's well-being and not destruction.

With love, we:

a) Accomplish much, as we are so busy enabling ourselves and others, that we have no time/place for negativity in our lives...

b) Please God, as we are so busy pleasing Him and encouraging others...that we are more open to seeing how much He has blessed us (with health, strength, the ability to get our of our beds in the morning,etc.) versus how much we lack...

These two points positively affect how we view ourselves and others and indeed make us more joyful persons...persons with less stress and strain caused from harbouring negative thoughts/emotions and perceptions.

Hmmmmmh.....

So, are you a bone maker or bone breaker?....

If you are a bone breaker, would you like to learn how to become a bone maker?

If you are a bone maker...would you like to learn how to repel the bone breakers in your life?

Well, stay tuned for, "Are You a Bone Maker Bone Breaker?(Part  2)", where I will teach you how to convert your bone-breaking tendencies to bone-making ones and show you how to deal with the bone breakers in your life.

I would like to thank Sandrino for the inset pic used in this post. Sandrino's photos can be found on the photo site www.Flickr.com.

Gillian

 

Sources Include:

1) Article,"How long it takes for Broken Bones/Fractures to Heal", www.Doctorsecrets.com

Kern Refuses to Resign!

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Friends we have interesting news to report this morning.

A high level delegation from the People's National Party (including PNP General Secretary, Peter Bunting) met with the Constituency Executive of North East St. Elizabeth, yesterday.

[Mr. Kern Spencer, the Member of Parliament for North East St. Elizabeth, has been charged with fraud, money laundering and corruption, for his role in the JMD $270 million, Cuban Light Bulb Project, gone awry.

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(Jamaica is divided into 60 constituencies, whose elected representatives sit in Parliament.

These representatives are called Members of Parliament)]

The Constituency Executive told the delegation that they are fully behind Mr. Spencer - they really don't see any reason why he should resign.

[There has been mounting pressure on Mr Spencer to resign his post as Member of Parliament (MP) for the constituency, following his arrest, last Tuesday, on money laundering, corruption and fraud charges, as they relate to the Cuban Light Bulb Project.

(Mr. Spencer was former State Minister in the Ministry of Industry,Technology, Energy and Commerce and was given oversight of this Project.

Please read our posts for the week of February 26,2008 for a background re this.)]

Mr. Spencer also met with the delegation, this week and communicated his intent to remain as MP of North East St. Elizabeth.

Well, if what we hear from the Constituency Executive and what we see on television are to believed, then the people of North East St.Elizabeth are so enamored by their representative, that they do not want him to resign.

They are willing to accept him as their representative, no matter what charges have been made against him.

Interesting, huh?

This gentleman has been accused of defrauding the people of Jamaica to the tune of JMD $270 million dollars and yet the people that he represents, see nothing morally wrong with him representing them.

That $270 million dollars that could have been used to:

1) Improve their and our hospitals, schools, roads (most of which are in deplorable conditions) and that could help to pay off our trillion dollar debt.

2) Pay their and our teachers, nurses, doctors who work in public hospitals, police, firemen and women, civil servants...

Who, come April, when the new budget is announced, will be pressuring the government for increased pay...

and for whom the government of Jamaica will have to borrow money to pay, since we can't seem to generate enough revenues to meet their pay bill.

3) Support their and our elderly, disabled and destitute and contribute to a better standard of living for all Jamaicans.

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In any other civilized country, if a public official is implicated in wrong-doing, he/she doesn't even wait to be officially charged, to resign his/her post...he/she does it immediately...for,

He/she knows that:

1) He/she owes it to the people he/she represents, to have representatives who will act in their best interest and who will appear to be transparent, ethical and honest in all their dealings, but especially those that involve the people's money.

2) The people he/she represents, think enough of (so highly of) themselves, to not allow people who may be involved in wrong-doing...even if it's an implication, to represent them...as it's a bad reflection on them as a people, to have representatives who appear to be dishonest...

(Additionally, there are too many honest people falling over themselves to represent them, that they don't have to dig at the bottom of the barrel, to find a representative.)

3) It's a bad reflection on the political party who put him/her up, for election, in the first place.

Hmmmh!

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All I can say is that the PNP surely has interesting days ahead.

For the Party is caught in a moral dilemma....

Should their leaders force Kern to resign against the wishes of his constituents, or should they allow him to stay, despite the moral implications of him doing so?

It will surely be instructive to see the decision the Party makes, re this in light of the recent admission by Dr. Peter Phillips, PNP Vice-President, that the PNP has lost the trust of the Jamaican people in terms of its moral authority to lead.

Gillian

Sources Include

1) Nationwide Radio, News at 7:00 a.m., March 7, 2008