As promised, here are my thoughts re this:
The implications of asking this question get more serious, the more you advance in age, so for 12-16 year olds, I'd say, take Valentine's Day as a sweet, nice day to get to know someone you're attracted to.
The question, "Will you be my Valentine?"..should be a sweet, nice way to get to know someone on a semi-deep level, romantically..not to be engaged in kissing, petting and the like...that will put your body, hormones and emotions into overdrive and leave you with regrets.
At 12-16 years old...you should really be concentrating on your schoolwork and mastering it, than on starting serious relationships.
Get to know members of the opposite sex as friends, first...learn how they think, how they operate, before starting anything serious,ok?
(It takes several years to really master this art, so that you aren't making serious relationship mistakes when you get older).
Before entering any relationship, you need to be aware and have your eyes and ears wide open, know realistically what to expect from the opposite sex, before venturing forward.
Where other younger persons, (17-18 years olds), are concerned, the above question is best answered, accordingly:
If you've gotten the chance to talk with the person and them with you, for a period of over 6 months to 1 year and you've developed a friendship and a liking for each other, then go right ahead.
If this is just someone you're infatuated with - someone you like, but you really don't know that well as yet..hold off a bit.
- They may be involved with someone else (you need to find this out before asking)
- They may not have the same romantic interest in you.
Remember revelations like this should only be made when you're at least 75% sure of getting a positive response.
And you'll learn from early on, that it's not worth the investment of your effort or time to chase after people who fall into either of the above categories.
You're setting up yourself for heartbreak and failure, which can easily be avoided, if you just move on. :)
Too many adults make the mistake of trying to start a relationship on a very faulty foundation and have many regrets, as a result...
Your aim, younger persons, is to live your life with as few regrets as possible.
This is not to say that you shouldn't take chances and jump at opportunities, but your choices must be from an informed standpoint.
..In light of this, I have an addition to point 1) above:
Please don't "muddy the waters" with people who are in a involved (in a relationship).
If it were you and you had a boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife...you'd never want him/her to be distracted by someone trying to disruspt that relationship.
What you wouldn't want for yourself, please don't do to someone else,ok? :)
For persons 18 years and older:
The same advice applies, but with one distinction...
Some people know instantly, that there's an attraction and have no bones about (problems with) pursuing it.
In this case, both persons know what they want - have verified quickly that categories 1 and 2 above, don't apply; know what they're looking for in a relationship...can easily spot value systems and whether or not there's agreement in same.
If you feel that you've had enough experience with knowing people and there's an attraction - then proceed cautiously.
It does help, however, to wait to make that revelation, until you've given each other time to know each other a bit better and to wait for the person's personality to unfold..to really decide if this is someone you want to pursue a relationship with.
It really can't hurt for you to wait a bit.
Valentines Day is a special day...yes, but not because it's approaching, means that you should rush into things, just to say that you have a Valentine or try to fit in with your peers.
Your time will come and when it does, you need to ensure that you're ready for it.
You do this by developing yourself spiritually, mentally, emotionally, career-wise, financially, so that when that moment comes, you're more than ready to pursue a relationship.
I will also address the issue of best (good) friends here:
Some best friends find that they are falling in love and are at their wits end as to whether or not they should reveal it.
They fear that telling the other party the truth, will not only ruin the friendship, but create unnecessary tension if both are not at that place.
My humble advice for best friends in this situation, is this:
Life is short..very short...the fact that you're best friends means you have serious things in common.
Who better to start a potential life-long relationship with, than your best friend?
You may broach the topic with a general question first...e.g. "I know someone or I was reading where someone was seriously thinking about dating his/her best friend, but had misgivings...what do you think..do you think that best friends should get involved?"
...gauge your best friend's response, to see if he/she thinks this would be a good idea.
If the answer is clear that there's a 75% possibility that it could work...go right ahead.
If not, probe carefully and skilfully to see what hangups your best friend may have re this.
Then ascertain if it would be wise pursuing this change in relationship status.
If both of you have the same feelings ...go for it! and if it ends..accept this, give each other loads of space and move on...
True friends are very hard to find...please think twice about throwing away a best friend, because romantically, things don't work out, between you two, ok? :)
I hope that the above has helped shed some light on the often-asked question, "Should I tell someone I like, the truth on Valentine's Day?"
You know I'd love to hear your thoughts re this, right? :)
You may comment below, or contact me to share your views re same...
(I'd like to thank holtmi for the use of her Flickr inset photo above..it's of a heart she gave on Valentine's Day...just look at that heart a bit, will you?..notice it's purposefully placed on the left-hand-side of the photo?
This can be interpreted to mean that there's a little indecision re the heart-giving process, but look at those small blood vessels within and surrounding the heart..really tells that there's a whole lot of truth going on).
Thanks holmti. :)